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| lovefootball) | Date: Wednesday, 19.01.2011, 13:26 | Message # 31 |
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| I can't say fo sure, it's a very individual matter. Maybe, someone can get calm after deep breathing and others need professional help. I guess it depends on one's upbringing (if parents are always swearing at each other, it's dificult to imagine that their child can be a balanced person, able to control his anger) , manners, habits, will power,self-respect and love for his/her family and friends. For me two last factors are determinative. As a matter of fact, I'm very emotional and it took me a lot of time to learn to control myself (yet I can't say I do it perfectly but I'm really trying). Every time I'm about to give way to negative emotions, I try to think about the consequences. I know I'll blame myself afterwards and what is more important I may hurt someone's feelings.
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| Nikky | Date: Wednesday, 19.01.2011, 16:33 | Message # 32 |
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| I agree with you. But I think that "the right way" depends not only on individual characteristics. It depends on the kind of situation, too.
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| lovefootball) | Date: Thursday, 20.01.2011, 12:13 | Message # 33 |
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| Sure! It's just etiquette. We have various social parts and should consider others. But still "the factor of consequences" is determinative, I think. If you throw a fit at home, you'll be most likely forgiven and understood but what if you don't control yourself at work! That may lead even to dismissal and you'll get bad name.
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| Nikky | Date: Wednesday, 02.03.2011, 17:40 | Message # 34 |
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| Quote (lovefootball)) It's just etiquette. We have various social parts and should consider others.
That's it 
I think that the problem of "expressing our emotions properly" is too difficult. Because even at home we should follow rules. We can break these rules, as our family would understand us and won't be mad, but it doesn't mean that we can break rules all the time.
For example, you come home in a bad mood. You have some problems, but they are not very serious. And your mum greets you with a smile on her face. And you know that if you are rude to her, her happiness will be ruined. And you just smile back to her and go to your room... And then you try to express your emotions in your own way.
I want to say that we should express our bad emotions but at the same time we should follow social rules.
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| lovefootball) | Date: Wednesday, 02.03.2011, 20:36 | Message # 35 |
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| I think it's right to say that it's a kind of art. Such skills aren't given to us from the very beginnig. This social knowledge requires hard work, often overwhelming oneself. And I can say for sure that the way to it is thorny as it's impossible to avoid mistakes. The best thing here is that when you manage to overbear your irritation or other impulsions, you don't feel deeply offended and your vanity isn't wounded. On the contrary, you're overfilled with joy and pride!
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| 2Young | Date: Thursday, 12.05.2011, 01:58 | Message # 36 |
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| Can't express positive emotions seeing the world and people around  Often negative I'm trying to be at least indifferent not to notice all of this and may be not to hurt people surrounding me.
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| lovefootball) | Date: Thursday, 12.05.2011, 17:51 | Message # 37 |
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| Well, I hold to an opinion that we see what we want to see. It isn't self-deception or illusions, it's just your free choice. Everyone organizes his life according to his principles, world-view and the perception of things and events on the whole. It's a road you go. I don't sugest that we should consciously turn a blind eye to evil, injustice and pain but I'm absoultely sure that it's MUCH BETTER not to make the corner-stone of all that! One MUST seek positive emotions! Anxiety is destructive not only for the soul but also for the body, I mean it affects health. Of course, there are moments of grief and melancholy but let them melt away! Upon my word, Christ suffered for people not to watch them being sullen all the time.
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| 2Young | Date: Friday, 13.05.2011, 05:29 | Message # 38 |
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| Christ? OK. Did he suffer for people to watch them murdering each other? Did he suffer for people to watch them ruining the world surrounding? Did he suffer for people to watch them die because of a pandemic?
People do not often live as Christ wants. They just justify their crimes using faith.
Do you believe in God? Yes? Than how can you think you can change anything? It's HIS will to happen things that happen!
Look around! Do you like the world you are living in? The people? You can change neither them nor the world.
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| Former-Teacher | Date: Friday, 13.05.2011, 10:26 | Message # 39 |
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| It's strange to read your lines, 2Young! I feel that you are a seeking personality but youthfully lazy!
One thing is that you don't even try and want to understand anything that goes on in the world. Your brains are full of aggressive stereotypes that block any sound reasoning or an impulse to think about what you have written. It means that you have never read or analyzed anything on the matter, and your opinion of religion and positive worldview has been shaped by blockbusters, popular essays and opinions of ignorant people. It's not a simple skill to think and analyze. One prudent thing for you will be to avoid judging or expressing 'opinion's about the things that your mind is lazy to understand. You have just proved that you have no opinion of your own, only subjective attitudes.
As for religion and faith - this is a foreign world of thought for you! If you want to answer your own questions, first learn to think and not to shout!
P.S.: I like the world I am living in. Because I build and improve it every day, myself, with the help of my mind and spirit. And every day it grows bigger.
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| Nikky | Date: Friday, 13.05.2011, 17:13 | Message # 40 |
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| Quote (Teacher) I like the world I am living in. Because I build and improve it every day, myself, with the help of my mind and spirit. And every day it grows bigger.
Amazing words! 
Quote (2Young) Do you believe in God? Yes? Than how can you think you can change anything? It's HIS will to happen things that happen!
I think you mixed definitions of words "faith" and "fate". In my opinion people CAN change their lives, world around them. And they are doing it. For example, people mentioned that attitude to the disabled people are bad. And they made a lot of campaigns about issues for disabled people. Just because they had an idea to change the world. And what about African Americans? Just the same. I'm talking about some global situation. As for our everyday problems. For example, you got an argument with someone. But you explained to this person your point of view, your emotions. And everything is OK. Everything you have - experience. And after that you and your apponent know how to behave in such situations. And it IS a change in our world. We are changing through our mistakes.
You think that everything has been already chosen? You think that we can't do anything?
As Teacher said, it's just laziness. If you really wanted to change something, you would say "Oh, I will do it! I'll manage!".
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| lovefootball) | Date: Friday, 13.05.2011, 21:04 | Message # 41 |
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| And just one small addition, the outer world is nothing else but the reflection of your ideas, the perception and understanding of everything what's going on around. The statement that thoughts are material is not trite! But knowing it is not enough. It should be experienced, evaluated and applied. I don't say that it's easy but it's a natural process of one's development.
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| Luck | Date: Tuesday, 31.05.2011, 23:04 | Message # 42 |
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| I voted for "indifferent emotions". I think that mainly people express exactly this kind of emotions. Sometimes we feel happy, sometimes-sad. But I think we can't react always only positively or negatively. Our nervous system also needs a rest from time to time:)
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| lovefootball) | Date: Tuesday, 27.09.2011, 17:04 | Message # 43 |
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| Exactly, it's a kind of defence mechanism. By the way, there're a lot of people for whom it's much more difficult to remain calm and untroubled than to express the entire palette of emotions from cold rage to hog-wild enthusiasm. It's generally-accepted to call them "emotional" but to tell the truth I'd rather say it's instability. Couple this "wonderful" quality with the irrepressible desire to concern oneself with the affairs of other people and you'll get the most annoying busy-body)))
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| Former-Teacher | Date: Tuesday, 27.09.2011, 22:27 | Message # 44 |
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| Ha! Isn't that really so! An annoying busy-body! Blunt truth it is that this one is just a real bore!
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| :) | Date: Saturday, 29.09.2012, 09:42 | Message # 45 |
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| I am very amotional person.But I often feel positive amotions...I like people who always feel positive and have a good mood...
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