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| Asya | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 00:23 | Message # 1 |
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| Some of us are used to crying a lot and some do it rarely. But still: why do we cry? Why is it that humans blubber, while other members of the animal kingdom don’t seem to let out even a sniffle?
Different languages can provide barriers to spoken communication, but emotions are universal. There are also culturally acceptable reasons for crying that bring people together, such as at funerals or weddings.
Studies have shown that emotional tears contain more manganese, an element that affects temperament, and more prolactin, a hormone that regulates milk production. Sobbing out manganese and prolactin is thought to relieve tension by balancing the body’s stress levels and eliminating build ups of the chemicals, making the crier feel better.
But what about babies? They can cry before they can speak!!!
Though there is a significant debate over whether animals have emotions and can express them, some animals do appear to cry for emotional reasons. Elephants seem to grieve when a family member dies and will guard the body and travel long distances to view it.
Humans can and do dissolve into tears for a number of reasons. Whjy do YOU usually cry? Does it offen happen to you? Do tears help you to overcome stress?
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| Rina | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 02:57 | Message # 2 |
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| Dunno why, but my attitude to crying is quite strange... I regard it as people's... weakness... yep, I understand that there are different kinds of crying... caused by grief, caused by overwhelming happyness, caused by ordinary desire to feel pitied on... but as for me, it's just difficult to cry. Just can't break through inner barriers. Dunno, may be it's a kind of psychological problem... but for me "to cry" is equal to "to concede defeat"...
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| Asya | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 03:49 | Message # 3 |
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| Quote (Rina) but as for me, it's just difficult to cry. Just can't break through inner barriers. Dunno, may be it's a kind of psychological problem... but for me "to cry" is equal to "to concede defeat"...
For me, too. But still it happens. And I feel like breaking the law!!!! It's so difficult. And I don't think it's a psychological problem. To my mind, it's our personality.
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| 8davids8 | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 08:12 | Message # 4 |
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| well, last time i cried was 5 years ago. maybe it's a stereotype but i'm also strongly against crying - it's as Rina said kinda defeat. i always ask people not to cry.
the only case in my opinion when people should cry is when they've lost their dearest and nearest.
otherwise it'll entail psychic problems... so crying is relaxation of your mind in a way
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| Luck | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 20:21 | Message # 5 |
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| well..I can cry just when I watch a compassionate movie but only ALONE)) in any other case...no.. Well...if somebody hurts me (I mean not physically) I can cry..but when I'm alone. Maybe it's a kind of weakness but I can't cry when people look at me because I'm always ashamed even if it is my mom or close friends. And I hate it when somebody tries to make me calm though I understand that in such situations people need a support. Added (11.06.2009, 20:21)
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and about the opinion that people should cry when they lose their nearest and dearest... 3 years ago I lost 2 of my friends. They had an accident. They were my class-mates. But when there was the funeral I didn't cry at all. Just stood and watched and thought. And it doesn't mean that I was calm...
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| 8davids8 | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 21:11 | Message # 6 |
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| i also lost friends.
but friends are not relatives. that's smth different.
so be always ready to cry.
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| Luck | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 21:26 | Message # 7 |
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| yes...that is different.. I can say that those two guys were not too close to me, we talked, sat at the same desk on the lessons, sometimes went back to home together, but we did not share our secrets or discuss something personal with each other. But I think that as everybody you have some close friends. Then have you ever thought what will happen if you lose them? Won't it be as painful as if you lose your relatives?
though I completely agree with you that losing relatives are not the same as losing other people...
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| 8davids8 | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 21:54 | Message # 8 |
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| no, of course it won't be the same. i'll forget about over in months.
but how horrible when mothers lose their children or children lose their parents, ah?
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| Luck | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 22:18 | Message # 9 |
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| I don't think that if I lose my CLOSE friend I will forget about it over in months. But that's true that the most horrible thing is to lose your parents.
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| 8davids8 | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 22:28 | Message # 10 |
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| i will((
cause they say "who has never tasted bitter, knows not what is sweet".....
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| Luck | Date: Thursday, 11.06.2009, 23:06 | Message # 11 |
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| agree with you..and after the death of those guys I began thinking more about my friends so I can say that it will be painful for me to lose them.
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| Asya | Date: Friday, 12.06.2009, 00:19 | Message # 12 |
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| Your discussion... It'so... So...
Well... I was reading and thinking about what you've written about. And I felt like something has been taken away, some part of me... I felt it so strongly that even began to worry...
And I've just finished reading a book where a girl loses her nearest people. Parents, friends...
If only we could be sure that the following day wouldn't bring us grief!!!!!!
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| Megastarosta | Date: Tuesday, 05.01.2010, 19:41 | Message # 13 |
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| Quote (Asya) but as for me, it's just difficult to cry.
I'm a very emotional person. I cant hear a loud voice and when people shout at me. Maybe, tears are my protective reaction. Anyway, i believe that tears are not bad, they just help you to endure the difficult moment in your life. Have you ever noticed that you feel better after crying (for example if something bad has happened )
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| lovefootball) | Date: Sunday, 16.05.2010, 20:05 | Message # 14 |
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| I think one can feel better after crying only if the reason for tears is insignificant.
My teacher once told me,"Don't show your weakness, you're a woman." But unfortunately, I'm too emotional to supress tears every time I'm about to cry. Anyway, I'm trying to be more reserved.
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| Asya | Date: Sunday, 16.05.2010, 22:41 | Message # 15 |
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| Quote (lovefootball)) My teacher once told me,"Don't show your weakness, you're a woman."
I like this saying. I've thought about it earlier and there's one thing that I can't understand. Women have to be strong overcoming different life situations, but with men they have to be weak. So, is playing roles inevitable?
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