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When and how to build a family?
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| MissJane | Date: Wednesday, 08.06.2011, 23:17 | Message # 91 |
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| Nekavaen, I guess the case you described looks more like of Western culture. I don't think that it is widespread in Russia. But you're right, in America or in Europe, for instance, it is highly possible that people create their 'unions' for the sake of material wellbeing. I feel that it can undermine the positive view upon family life of other people. Being focused on money and on the ways to get it (note: not earn but get), young people make up in fact sham marriages.
Or they set forth on adventures and are tortured with the responsibility of choice: there are so many beautiful girls/handsome guys but they are poor, whom should I choose? Wrong values are being bred.
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| lovefootball) | Date: Tuesday, 22.11.2011, 18:22 | Message # 92 |
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| Why, I guess we've just taken this view to close to heart without actually trying to get into its root. I don't see anything criminal here. The word "bargain" may be interpreted in various ways under these circumstances. A material solid union, why not? Material doesn't presuppose heartlessness, aloofness and concentration on money only , of course not! On the contrary it's an art of combining spiritual, mental,intellectual and physical (intimate relations as well as housekeeping and planning a budget). So it is a bargain, which requires certain guarantees and duties.
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| Zuzu | Date: Wednesday, 07.12.2011, 13:27 | Message # 93 |
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| A man should graduate from University. So should a girl. I agree with Ayayulia. I hate people say "It's time to get married". Everyone has different time to marry because everyone becomes ready for creating a family at different times.))
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| lovefootball) | Date: Wednesday, 07.12.2011, 19:44 | Message # 94 |
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| It's true...as for the Uni, I believe that it's better to graduate before getting married (I'm speaking about girls now becasue in my perception the man's age is out of question: he simply MUST be older. Still I do emphasize that it's my humble opinion ONLY and maybe it wont' work even for me, who knows))) because I just can't figure out how it's possible to give oneself to studies and be a devoted wife who runs the house and so on (the list of duties and responsibilities is huge). I know that young couples very often cope with the help of parents but I'm not sure whether it's the best way out.
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| Former-Teacher | Date: Thursday, 08.12.2011, 23:46 | Message # 95 |
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| Ha, I feel perplexed at how you all see the everyday family routine! Why do you colour it so pale, boring, unbearable and mercantile! It's a lot easier to travel in this life together with somebody you love 
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| lovefootball) | Date: Friday, 09.12.2011, 17:56 | Message # 96 |
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| ))))))) We're just trying...h'm...not to be divorced from reality, I mean not to idealize anything. I don't regard it as a burden! By no means! On the contrary, it's most natural to share everyday matters with a peron close to your heart. The point is that one should be prepared for it. By the way, we discussed family life several days ago with one of our teachers and when I said that I'm against the idea of living together before the marriage, he got very surprised. He thinks that in this case it will be extremely difficult for me to get used to family life and deal with my daily round. I'm not a quarreller, so I didn't argue but still I disagree) And what do you think?
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| Former-Teacher | Date: Friday, 09.12.2011, 21:45 | Message # 97 |
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| I don't beieve that teacher and I wonder who he is 
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| lovefootball) | Date: Tuesday, 13.12.2011, 19:31 | Message # 98 |
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| I don't believe either))) It's just my upbringing, not a momentary whim. I don't impose this idea on anybody but for me it's a must. By the way my best friend doesn't share this opinion, she thinks it's necessary to try living together in order to learn your partner better and decide whether both of you are ready to put up with each other's habits and so on. Ha-ha, I have a feeling that such a strategy may lead to a lot of "tryings"))))))))))))))
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| Former-Teacher | Date: Thursday, 22.12.2011, 14:44 | Message # 99 |
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| Quote (lovefootball)) it's necessary to try living together in order to learn your partner better and decide whether both of you are ready to put up with each other's habits and so on
Well, people are changing and have substituted love for 'tryings'. Nonsense!
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| lovefootball) | Date: Thursday, 22.12.2011, 19:56 | Message # 100 |
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| Though I'm not reproving towards others I don't accept it for myself. I just don't want to waste time in such a way. First you try, then when first problems appear and both of you aren't officially bound, it becomes not the matter of responsibility but that of mere feelings. Another thing is comfort, I mean it often happens that a woman is full of hopes for family life and her beloved is simply enjoying his serene existence: no marriage vows but actually a "wife", delicious meals and a tidy flat every day...)
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| strawberry | Date: Monday, 02.04.2012, 00:40 | Message # 101 |
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| I believe a man who is going to get married and build a family first of all must be firm in decisions and must be ready to difficulties of family life. i think that age is no matter for love, but is really important for building of family. Because this serious life`s step demands the serious treatment to your soulmate. When you try to make family you should be responsible, brave and devoted. Of course at once you will have a baby,who will need in care & love. You should also pay attention on the finantial condition, because your wife/husband and baby should have bare essentials.
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| Jenny | Date: Monday, 02.04.2012, 09:59 | Message # 102 |
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| Statistics tells us that very few couples of 18-22 years have long and strong relationships. Indeed, at that age people are still childish and not responsible enough. What's more, they don't understand that love isn't enough to build a family. A man and a woman should not only love each other to death, but devote, feel comfortable near that person and take care of him. To get married you must be 100% sure of your choice. If you have some doubts, then think once more.
As for me, i think, that an ideal age for marriage is 25-30 years. At that age people are more experienced in relationships and there's stronger possibility that they won't make a mistake in their choice.
Teacher's comment - Study the rule for the word 'age' here: http://groupa.ucoz.co.uk/forum/31-196-1
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| Samsik | Date: Monday, 28.05.2012, 11:21 | Message # 103 |
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| Today's families are busy. Mom and dad are both working, the kids are involved in a myriad of activities, and there is little time to simply enjoy being a family anymore. What can you do to build some family unity? How can you prevent those you love from not knowing each other? With a little creativity and effort, you can build a close-knit family in spite of your busy calendar. It takes perseverance, but it is definitely possible!
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| Irina | Date: Monday, 24.09.2012, 00:09 | Message # 104 |
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| i want to have a good friendly family)my ideal family is wife,husband, two children) everyone is happy and love and happiness will be whith us always.
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| kuroi_NekO | Date: Thursday, 11.10.2012, 22:00 | Message # 105 |
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| well, I think nowadays it's very important for a women to have a good career
as for me I want to marry at the age of 25-26 and before I have a child and find my love, I'm going to get a well-paid job and become a real specialist.
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